Have you ever had a feeling that something wasn't quite right, but you couldn't explain why?

Maybe you told yourself you were overthinking it. Or that you should give it another chance. Or that you didn't have a good enough reason to walk away.

I've been there. And recently, I found myself doing exactly that.

It Started with a Feeling

One morning, while watching the news, I saw a reporter who also does podcasts interviewing a color analyst.

As I watched the television ad and listened to the analyst, something felt off. I couldn't quite put my finger on it, so I found the podcast and listened to the interview and still had that same feeling.

A while back, I'd had my colors done through an online service. I'd always been curious whether the results were accurate.

So, I thought, well, this person is local. Why not book an in-person appointment and see if my online analysis was right?

And that's exactly what I did.  I pushed that feeling aside and booked the appointment.  

The day of the appointment finally arrived, and I was excited. I was looking forward to having my colors done in person and getting some clarity.

As I was driving to the appointment, I received a text. I pulled over and checked it. It was the analyst, letting me know she was running late. She told me to wait in the lobby of the professional building and gave me the bathroom code.

While I was sitting in the lobby, I noticed the lights come on in her space. Through the glass, I could see her waving me in.

I remember thinking, that's an unusual way to greet a new client.

I got up and went inside. She was busy getting the space ready for the appointment.

At the end of the analysis, she determined that my color palette was different from what the online service had given me.

She took before-and-after pictures and sent them to me later on my phone.

When I looked at them, something didn't look right. Honestly, I thought my before picture looked better than the after pictures.

Then she texted me. She was having second thoughts about the outcome and asked if I'd be willing to come back in.

I was actually relieved. I agreed.

She wanted me to come back right away, even that same day, but I decided to schedule it for a week later to give things some time to settle.

We agreed on a time.

Same Story, Different Day

When the day of the second appointment arrived, I was driving to her office when I received another text.

She was running late again and gave me the bathroom code.

Same story, different day.

After the appointment, she determined that my original online color analysis had been right.

So, that was settled.

But looking back, there had been several things that didn't feel right to me from the very beginning.

And I hadn't listened to myself.

Instead, I kept giving the situation another chance. I kept telling myself I should just keep trying.

I didn't have a logical explanation for why it initially felt uncomfortable, so I pushed those feelings aside.

I gave her the benefit of the doubt even though clues started surfacing.

And then I booked the next phase: a style appointment.  It didn't feel right but I did it anyway.  

I've always struggled with knowing how to dress myself, so I was genuinely excited about getting some guidance.

The appointment was a month away, and I was looking forward to it.

When I Finally Started to Question Things

The day of the style appointment arrived.

I was almost there when I received another text.

By this point, I figured it was probably her, so I didn't even read it until I pulled into the parking lot.

Sure enough, she was running late again.

I didn't respond.

I was confused. I don't run my own business this way, and I couldn't understand why this kept happening.

More importantly, I didn't feel like a valued, paying customer. I felt as though I was in the way of her life.

When she arrived, I went inside. Once again, she was scurrying around, getting the space ready.

We started the style appointment and worked through the process, but it was taking longer than she had expected.

At one point in the process was a question about being indecisive and she answered for me, saying "yes" that I was indecisive.  

For me, my decision-making process is different. I need to wait for clarity. I'm not designed to make decisions spontaneously.

As the appointment continued, I started feeling as though I was taking up too much space.

Eventually, the appointment went over its scheduled time. She had to call her next appointment and cancel it.

And finally, I was done.

I left and began reflecting on the entire experience.

That's when I started to see a pattern.

What I Realized About Myself

The biggest realization wasn't about the color analysis or the style appointment.

It was about me.

Something had felt off from the very beginning, but I hadn't trusted myself enough to pay attention to it.

I kept looking for a logical reason to justify what I was feeling.

My mind wanted an explanation. It wanted proof that I had a good enough reason to question the situation or make a different choice.

And because I couldn't come up with one, I kept going.

Looking back, I can see how my not-self patterns were showing up.

I was holding on longer than I needed to. I wasn't recognizing when enough was enough. I kept thinking I should give it another chance.

I was overriding my own experience because I thought I needed a logical reason to stop.   

But here's what I've come to understand through Human Design:

Your mind doesn't always have the answers. And you don't have to have a logical explanation for everything you feel.

Sometimes, your body picks up on things before your mind can make sense of them.

That doesn't mean every uncomfortable feeling is a sign that something is wrong. It doesn't mean we should make decisions based on every passing emotion or first impression.

It means learning to recognize how we're designed to make decisions and giving ourselves the time and space to follow that process.

For me, as an Emotional Projector, that means waiting for clarity rather than making spontaneous decisions.

And in this situation, I can see how I kept overriding what I was noticing because I thought I should keep trying.

Had I listened to my initial "off feeling," I could have explored other local analysts and found someone that felt right.

Instead, I kept going because I thought I should.

And that's the part of this experience I want to share with you.

Are You Listening to Yourself, or to What You Think You Should Do?

Maybe you've experienced something similar.

You have a feeling about a situation, a relationship, or a decision, but you can't explain it.

So you tell yourself:

I should give it another chance.

I should be more understanding.

I shouldn't make a big deal out of this.

What if I'm making the wrong decision?

And before you know it, you've talked yourself out of what you were noticing in the first place.

I've done this more times than I can count.

For most of my life, I thought making good decisions meant thinking things through, finding the logical answer, and doing what I believed I should do.

But Human Design has taught me that understanding how I'm designed to make decisions is a very different experience.

It's not about getting better at making decisions with my mind.

It's about learning to trust my own process.

And that begins with understanding your Type, Strategy, and Authority.

Your Type can help you understand your natural way of interacting with life. Your Strategy offers a way to engage with opportunities and decisions that aligns with your design. And your Authority is your personal decision-making process—not your mind's list of reasons for what you should do.

You don't have to get it perfect. I'm certainly still learning.

But the more you understand how you're designed to make decisions, the more you can begin to recognize when you're following your own guidance and when you're overriding it to meet expectations, avoid discomfort, or please someone else.

And that can change the way you move through your life.

What if you stopped doing what you think you should do?

If you're anything like me and have struggled to listen to your inner guidance, I'd love to help you get started.

Maybe you already know your Human Design Type, Strategy, and Authority, but aren't quite sure what they mean or how to apply them to your everyday decisions.

Or maybe you're just beginning to explore Human Design.

Either way, I've created a free personalized chart and guide to help you understand the three foundational pieces of your design and how they can help you make decisions that actually work for you.

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I can't wait for you to discover what your design can teach you about yourself.

Thanks for being here.  

— Leslie
Certified Professional Analyst